Dangerously Inept

July 11, 2007

Can you really afford to stay inert?

Filed under: Approach Anxiety, LSE, Man Up, Men, Philosophy, Self Improvement, Women — dangerouslyinept @ 7:25 pm

The greatest tragedies in your life are yet to be written.

Let’s let those words sink in for a moment, before continuing. They were specifically picked for tonality and dramatic value; they serve the purpose of “bringing home” the reality that there is always more that you can be doing.

But what if you let your fear dictate the actions you want to make? Then perhaps those words wouldn’t ever be actually spoken. Instead, they’d be more briefly-thought and then disregarded — you’re sticking within your comfort zone, and within that zone, there is a beautiful cocoon of no-risk.

People like basking within the riskless — it’s an opportune way to use the mundane to an advantage. For when you’re without risk, all mundane tasks further to expand the comfort which you feel. It’s a reinforcing comfort cycle, all psychologically engineered by YOURSELF to give a sense of well-being.

This can be thrown into evolutionary biology terms, and it seems trite: If you risked your ass to get food, there’s a good chance you’d not come back. The more risk you took, the greater chance you’d be eaten, killed, or worse. So, we’re hardwired to only take the risks that we need to take — ironic, as these days most risk can’t be met with great harm.

If you decide to stay inert, it’s comforting like cult philosophies. The insecurity that you see within normal, everyday life is overridden by the calm that you feel by staying where you are. It’s a tidy bank job, like you see in the movies: you can tell that something’s done, but you can’t seem to solve the mystery.

Can you really afford to stay inert?

May 22, 2007

AA and the Endgoal

Filed under: Approach Anxiety, Direct Game, Pickup — dangerouslyinept @ 5:06 pm

I’ve got a lot of content from previously, which I’m not going to post. In fact, I have no intention of posting that stuff. It’s in the past, and there’s no need to be completist, rehashing the old.

I haven’t done a cold approach in a week and a half, and that’s taken its toll. Today has two bits of inspiration, both equally inspiring.

The first comes from sinic. “People always try and be realistic because they feel being unrealistic is unachievable… however if everyone is being realistic there is more competition in that area. So in theory it’s easier to attract a 10 as opposed to attracting an 8″

He’s right. But what’s been bugging me a lot is that I don’t know my goal. Am I looking for an immediate fuck and then follow that up with like a relationship? Or am I looking to set the relationship in stone and then fuck the living shit out of her?

That kind of indecisiveness is readily apparent when you’re in the middle of a set.

So know where you’re going, know what your vision is. Fuck, I need to find mine. More later… and for the interim, Formhandle on David X.

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